Relationships can be so tricky. I feel pulled so many ways this weekend. I received an e-mail from by brother-in-law yesterday telling us that he has been dealing with alcoholism for the past 30 years and has decided to take control back of his life. I feel so badly that we had no clue he was struggling with this. He is a wonderful, loving man and although he lives halfway across the US from us, I have always felt very close to him and his partner. I am so proud of him for taking up this fight. It will be amazingly hard and now he is looking for acceptance from his family. I hope he gets it from everyone. After going through what we have with our son, we realize firsthand that family relationships - that we tend to take for granted for support - can quickly let you down. Many times we have found friendships to be more supportive. You never know until you need it.
And then sometimes not. Tonight I'm feeling a little (or a lot) let down from some close friends. At some point we have all gone some of those "extra friendship miles" to do a big favor for a friend. You don't do it for the gratitude. You do it because they really need it, want it, deserve it, etc. and because you want to because they are your friend. At the same time, it doesn't feel very good to bust your butt for someone and then feel totally screwed over for it. It is time to put on my "big girl panties" and go on, but right now I'm just a little pissed.
Now that's out (kind of), on with good stuff. I was offered a job with the school district the past week. It is going to be hard going back to work, but after hub's job shifts, it will be a blessing. I'm just nervous.
We also had some neighbors come by this weekend. They are a very young couple who look to us like parents. YIKES! They married shortly after they bought the house across the street about 3 years ago. We went to their wedding and have been with them and counseled them through some hard adjustments to a new marriage. On more than one occasion, it looked pretty doubtful. Anyway, they came by to tell us they were pregnant. And it gets better.......twins! Pretty exciting news!!
Anyway, life goes on. It can get pretty complicated but never totally dull. Sometimes the range of emotions flow through quickly. Hard to take it all in. What is it they say? Better than the alternative........
Later.
2 comments:
Hi, meo, checking in after being gone WAY too long.
You should be proud of the support you are giving friends and family. We learn a lesson when the effort is punished to be a little more cautious. But never underestimate the gratitude that may not be well expressed. It's hard to put it into words. Know that Someone recognizes that you are doing the right thing.
For all your protests of not being witty, I really enjoy your posts! I can picture what you're talking about and feel what you're feeling. That's what counts. Keep writing. And I'll keep praying for your son and family.
Thanks for the prayers, Birdie. Prayer is what has sustained us this far.
I have the most awesome friends!
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