Change is the only thing that is constant. Isn't that just profound. The rules keep changing. Not even the characters stay the same. How am I suppose to keep up?
Okay, so now I'm distracted a bit. Justine Bateman just came on TV. Where did that teenage face of hers go? She's looking really old! She would probably say the same thing about me.....if she saw me.....and if she knew me. Oh, well! Now where was I?
Change - Son #1 decided that he wants to go back to Texas to live. Sound familiar? He has been out less than 3 months and this is the 2nd time he's made this decision. This does give us a bit of a breather for which I should be grateful. You are always on guard as to what will happen the next minute when he is around. Hubby has a big birthday toward the end of the month and a lot of family is coming in for it. Hub keeps saying that all he wants is for all of his kids to be here. Anyone want to take a bet as to whether son #1 will decide he wants to hang out here for awhile after the birthday? Actually, Hub seems to have his eyes a little more open this time. Now if we can just keep him from blinking... He finally seems to be seeing how the boy/man has been using him. We've got to back off. We are not helping him.
I really think that there is a girl in Texas that still has quite a hold on our son. He went to high school with her and he was obsessed with her. This girl's insecurities are so obvious and she will do anything for male attention. Anything! She collected boys like a charm bracelet. Our son was so very drawn to her and she wouldn't let him go; not even when she did not want him. I always had the fear that they will end up together. So many times I prayed "God, please don't make me have to love this girl". I thought that I had dodged the bullet as she had a baby a couple of years ago never wrote our son or anything. I thought that I heard that she had married but turns out I was wrong. Son #1 thinks her baby girl is just the best. Oh, brother! Oh, and if that isn't enough, this girl has dropped out of college and is a go-go dancer (according to our son) in a club. Do they even have go-go dancers anymore? I'm thinking that any dancing that she is doing has a pole and tassels in the act. Did I tell you that she was a really nice girl and how much I like her? I didn't? Guess not.
Next week, we will have a teenager in our family again. My baby is turning 13. Really can't believe it although he is developing a bit of the attitude. Why didn't I just freeze him at five years old? I miss that little guy. He thought I was fabulous! Now, we are starting the "don't let anyone know that I have parents" stage. Yuck! He's having 2-3 boys over tomorrow night. For his birthday, I have made arrangements for him to go back to Texas and spend a weekend with his best friend. I can't wait to tell him. He will be so excited. He will be flying by himself for the first time. (Scary for me.) His friend's mom seems to really be looking forward to it. It is such a blessing to have another family love your child. His friend already has a ticket to fly up here Thanksgiving and then we will take him back. Our son has just been missing his old friends so much lately that I thought that this was the best gift I could give him.
The weather is finally getting cooler. It has been absolutely beautiful. The trees are just beginning to change color just a little. I can't wait for Autumn! At least my hubby had the good sense to be born in the Fall. We have family coming from all four directions: Charlotte, NC, Houston, San Francisco and maybe Indianapolis. It should be beautiful when they are here!
Well, I have one more load of wash to get started and then I'm going to bed. What a glamorous life I live! (Not.)
Later.
4 comments:
The sooner you let them go, the stronger they become. It's that whole sink or swim thing. I've learned this. Sounds like you have too, now if we could only teach our husbands. HA!
13 eh? My baby is going to be 16 in a couple of months and the thought of it just stops my breathing. Frozen at 5, wouldn't that be something?
I want to call you. Maybe today?
Just like rox said... They always come home. Got a text from my #1 and she's penniless and all but homeless and hinted at us paying her rent. I told her she could just come home, her rent is more than my house payment. And if she can't afford to pay her way home she knows we'll pay for a bus ticket, from Key West. Yeah, that'll make her take care of her business.
Maybe if you start to show an interest in #1's girl then he'll loose interest. Maybe he's just trying to get a rise out of you.
I got ya'll both beat #1 is 28 and the baby is 25!!! They never grow up.
Oh, Rox. I just looked at this. I have been running around like crazy getting ready for #2's sleepover tonight. Things are pretty crazy here around the weekend. Think we can talk during the day Monday or Tuesday? I want my full attention to be on my friend. :)
Jomamma, you give me hope and also remind me that this is going to be an ongoing project. You handled that well. Probably won't come home from Key West unless a hurricane blows her. Does she just sign on for different crews? I have no idea how that works.
Well, last night I felt a little hopeful for Hub, but today is another story. He talked to him today and had a similar conversation that you had with your daughter. HE ONLY LEFT MONDAY! I'm trying to remind him without nagging. Hard to do.
Once they become adults we have to let them be adults. They want to make their own choices so we have to let them reap the consequences of those choices. They can't have it both ways, making a bad choice and mom and dad bailing them out of it, unless of course they are Paris Hilton or someone like that. I once told my #1 that exact thing. "You're not Paris... there is only one Paris and her parents got the pleasure of having her. Thank God!"
We just have to let them deal with their choices. We can remind them to take it slow and think about those choices. Sometimes all the reminders in the world don't work. Does "it was your choice" sound better than "we told you so"?
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